Resources
The books and tools I recommend most to the midlife women I care for and talk with every week.
Books I Recommend
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Menopause & Perimenopause
The New Menopause
Evidence-based overview of symptoms, MHT and a long-term health toolkit.
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The Menopause Brain
Neuroscience of brain fog, mood and cognition through the transition.
Buy on AmazonUnlock Your Menopause Type
Personalized plans by symptom pattern from a menopause internist.
Buy on AmazonThe Perimenopause Survival Guide
A clear roadmap for women over 35 who want to understand their symptoms and build a treatment plan with their clinician.
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Come As You Are
The science of desire and arousal, and why "normal" covers far more than most of us were taught.
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The Women's Guide to Overcoming Insomnia
A drug-free, CBT-I based plan for better sleep, including the night sweats and 3 a.m. wake-ups of midlife.
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Lubes & Moisturizers
Almost Naked Water-Based Lube, 4 oz (2-pack)
by Good Clean Love
Organic, water-based, and pH-balanced, so it's gentle on sensitive midlife tissue.
Hybrid Silicone & Water-Based Lube, 1.69 oz
by Good Clean Love
Silky and longer lasting than water-based, with hyaluronic acid for extra comfort.
Restore Moisturizing Vaginal Gel, 2 oz
by Good Clean Love
A daily, glycerin-free moisturizer for everyday dryness, not just for sex.
Premium Silicone Lube, 55 ml
by Uberlube
Pure silicone, unscented, and long lasting, a favorite when water-based dries too fast.
Premium Silicone Lube Travel Kit, 15 ml
by Uberlube
The same lube in a purse-size refillable bottle.
Silky Smooth Personal Lubricant, 2.7 oz
by Replens
A silicone-based lube that stays slippery longer, so you reapply less.
Pelvic Floor Tools
Tip: Use a water-based lube with silicone tools. Silicone lube can damage silicone wands and dilators.
Non-Vibrating Pelvic Wand
by Intimate Rose
Medical-grade silicone wand for releasing tight pelvic floor trigger points at home, ideally with guidance from a pelvic floor PT.
Vibrating Pelvic Wand
by Intimate Rose
Adds gentle vibration to help tight pelvic floor muscles relax, and comes with how-to videos.
Bendable Pelvic Wand
by Intimate Rose
Bends to the angle you need, so you can reach deeper or harder-to-reach trigger points.
Silicone Vaginal Dilators, 8-Pack (Sizes 1 to 8)
by Intimate Rose
The full FDA-cleared silicone set for working through every size of dilator therapy.
Silicone Vaginal Dilators, 4-Packs by Size
by Intimate Rose
Buy only the sizes your pelvic floor PT recommends.
Dilator Handle
by Intimate Rose
Clicks onto the dilators for easier reach and control.
Silicone Dilators, 5-Pack
by QoQiu
A lower-cost five-size silicone set for working up gradually.
Vibrators
AVO Massager
by Hello Nancy
Compact, quiet, and easy to use, with 12 settings and one simple button.
Just Uno Quiet Vibrator
by Hello Nancy
Quiet and simple, a good first vibrator for exploring what feels good now.
Berri Personal Massager
by Hello Nancy
Rechargeable with a gentle rhythmic tapping feel, for women who find direct vibration too intense.